Last Friday, I wanted to write about love. But I had just moved into a new apartment, so the natural scramble to unbox my journal ensued. (Pen and paper? Yes, I’m old school.). I found it after going through five boxes and as I sat down on my chaise by the window, my gaze caressed the New Yorker building. “This is love too!”, I’d thought. So I got carried away into what became my last post. But oh well, let’s talk about the “love” love.
The song “आपा फेर मिलांगे” or “Apa fer Milaangey” has been all over social media lately. I’m not the one to keep up with the trends but recently a friend posted a reel with the song in the background, and that’s when it caught my eyes and ears. I looked it up on Spotify and I was not disappointed. I understand the language Punjabi just enough to get the “vibe” of the song and it’s different. It’s probably autotuned like every other song these days, but it does not seem “autotuned” right away, if you know what I mean. It almost sounds like a dude wrote a song for his girl and recorded it in his basement, and I mean it in a good way! Because that’s rare now, and that taps into something few songs do.
One example is “Hey there Delilah” and I tried to think why these songs make me feel the way they do. Is it because they’re happy and sad and hopeful and hopeless at the same time? So my brain is basically scrambled, and I don’t know what to feel? Does it take me back to a specific time or a specific someone? I don’t think it’s either. Maybe the answer is it’s just heartfelt and simple. No frills, no bells, no whistles – just a slice of someone’s life; a love that was so great it was bigger than the people in it. So it got immortalized in the song, and continues to bring comfort to who it touches.
It’s been a minute I were in love, well seven years. And I only realized it recently. For even when I might have dated after, and even when they might have been long-term monogamous committed relationships, I was never “in love”. How is this possible! What is even love! Maybe I’ll think about that another time. But I’m glad I was in love once upon a time. I strongly recommend falling in love to everyone. 🙂
It was young love, and the best kind. Maybe because it was so innocent. Even though I was just seventeen, I knew I could fight every human on the planet for this man. And by the way, when you’re sixteen, you most likely pick the wrong man. But that does not even matter, you move on. I think love is the most selfless and the most selfish emotion. On one hand I would give my life for this person in a heartbeat, and on the other hand, I would not want to share them with anyone (and I don’t mean it in an unhealthy way!).
I remember there was always an “us” in every decision, even when we were nineteen and making plans for when we would be thirty five. Those make-believe scenarios from future family dinners, or family vacations, or imaginary kids. I remember dressing up in the morning for college and rushing back in to swap my red scarf with blue because he liked it on me. He was a priority even with all the craziness around, and I knew if the world was ending tomorrow, and if I could save only one person, that would be him, even though it meant I’d have to walk through hellfire for the next eternity. Every bone in my body, and every inch of my skin was in love with this human. Now looking back at it as I’m older and wiser, in all reality, it was probably the most incompatible match of everyone I’ve ever dated, but when you fall for someone, you just do. There is no rhyme or reason. I was all in, heart, body, and soul and I gave it everything I had. And maybe that’s why love has been so hard to come by again. It’s not like you get a set quota of love to spend in life, but when you see something so pure and great like that die, you start holding back. So maybe it’s only heart the next time or only soul or only body. And sometimes when muscle memory kicks in nudging you to dive in, you spend too long sitting on the fence. Maybe you overcome that eventually, maybe you don’t.
But if you’re reading this today from your fence, I hope you find the courage to make the leap one more time. One more time is ALL you need in this lifetime. Belated Happy Valentine’s Day!
Very lovely post and a Happy belated Valentine’s Day to you as well!
Pen and paper. I like that and endorse 100% Some people have not forgotten all of life’s simple pleasures 👍👍
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Thank you for your kind words Kevin, and same to you!
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I use pen and paper too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences of love in youth. It’s a time when people often explore the potent mix of attraction, affection, infatuation, lust, love, compatibility and incompatibility, dreams realized or disillusionment, heartbreak, resiliency, resolve to heal and dare to be open to love again. I think ‘explore’ is the key word for love here. Love is divine and our true nature is ever in tune with Love. May the love you seek find you.
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I definitely see your point there..thank you for reading and thank you for your wishes!
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Happy Valentine’s.
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Same to you!
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Thank you, have been enjoying reading your content as well!
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haha.. hell ya, i would say to that. dove just like that paragraph of love. Saw it as i read it that life once was, still is in a parallel universe like you remember everything alone with the heat that day or the after rain smiles sharing along the beach, gone. But they are here importantly, lived and still loved, Vishakha. Thank you.
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Omg you’ve put it down so well! It really does feel like that. Thank you for reading!
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Hello blogger, I enjoyed reading your post. I subscribed. See you often. Have a happy and bright day.^^*
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Hello friend, I enjoyed reading your post. I subscribed. See you often. Have a happy and bright day🌙💫🔆🌹
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Love other stationery lovers out there, Vishakha! I’ll be posting some more about my stationery collection and adventures soon enough! ❤️
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Love, like a good song, should be heartfelt and simple – no frills, no bells, no whistles. Just a slice of someone’s life immortalized in melody. So if you’re sitting on the fence of love, remember, sometimes all you need is the courage to make the leap one more time. Belated Happy Valentine’s Day to all the hopeful romantics out there! 💕
— RD
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